Forbidden Love

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The brutally vigorous hurricane of debate over gay marriage is sweeping across the United States. I have a stance on this matter as well. But first, I believe it’s important that I share my story.

I am multiracial. Or, as some older folks have phrased it, a “half-breed.” My father is Mexican, and my mother is a diverse collection of peoples that amounts to “white.” They met in Arizona, where the two of them were going to school. This detail is important, because in my parents’ lifetime, there was a law in Arizona that made it illegal to marry a Mexican. Had the repeal of this law been delayed a decade, I would never have existed.

In my own personal life I have mainly been involved with people of a different national and ethnic origin than myself. My first girlfriend, in fact, didn’t even speak the same language at first. All this wasn’t a conscious lifestyle choice. It was simply the natural result of my ongoing quest to find my other half and be at peace at last for the remainder of my years. For someone to deny me that would be to deny me my whole existence. Sabotage my liberty and pursuit of happiness, and my life won’t survive for very much longer.

I personally don’t care who the government laws say can get married. I’m also not gay. If I were, I would probably feel differently. I will live my life by my convictions and fight for what I believe is right. I encourage others to do the same. No one can deny us this right.

Photo credit: Guian Bolisay

Joël Valenzuela
Joël Valenzuela
Joël Valenzuela is the editor of The Desert Lynx. He is also the founder of the Rights Brigade, a mover for the Free State Project, and a martial art instructor.
  • Able Freeman

    Hi Joël,
    Does your position mean you would take action on that to interfere with others having a different belief? I only ask cause you do not go there in this piece and I would think others here may not know what I believe, that you would not take such action.

    Thanks for weighing in on this.

    • No. I would not interfere in others’ attempts to live their lives to their fullest convictions. I support the right of people do do whatever peaceful thing they want, but I didn’t want to come out (ha ha) and just say it. I tried to provide a deep perspective on what taking a stand on that issue actually entails, encouraging people to come to the logical conclusion themselves.

      Thanks for reading and commenting, always appreciated.

  • Eri Louise Matsuoka

    Yeah, I agree with you that we all have our rights to who we love and no one should be able to deny that but I find it unnecessary when it grows out of proportion and people start riots or protests about gay marriage! The whole world doesn’t need to know. People have different beliefs and like you said Joel, they can do whatever peaceful thing they want but they don’t need to make a huge deal about it.
    On the topic of national and ethnic backgrounds I think that as a “half-breed” myself I’ve always been interested in meeting people from different cultures but when it comes to love it’s chance. I could be just as happy meeting someone with the same national and ethnic origin to someone who’s from a totally different background.

    • The real problem with the conflicts overa the marriage issue is the legal component. If the government got out of the business of love no one would care.

      It’s a big world out there, and there’s no reason to restrict our choices to just a small group of people that look like us. That’s why people like you and I exist.

  • John

    I have felt that what the gay community got when gay marriage was legalized what not a freedom or a right, but just the same thing heterosexuals now have. They have the ability to go to the government and get a piece of paper that allows them to be considered married. That, to me, is not a freedom. It is just another case where we have been granted a liscence from government when that right should be something we already have and not be given to us. I don’t disagree with gay marriage, just the fact that anyone has to go to the government to have the right to marry.